Expressing grief is healthy. Jesus wept at the tomb of his friend Lazarus. Weeping and talking about the person who died is good and helpful. It is one of the ways God heals broken hearts. If you are trying to comfort someone in grief, it is usually not helpful to say “I know just how you feel.” No one truly knows how another feels. Natural, warm, and understanding comments are best, such as: “I am so sorry; God bless you. We’ve been thinking about you a lot.”  Often, sitting silently and listening is the best medicine. In times of sorrow, the gift of your presence is appreciated.